Services celebrating and honoring the life of Bobby Ray "Bob" Coil will be today, June 2, 2017 at Cedar Point Church, Claremore. Burial will follow with Military Honors at Fairview Cemetery in Pryor under the direction of DeLozier Funeral Service, Chelsea. Bob left this temporary earthly home for his eternal heavenly home on Tuesday, May 30, 2017 surrounded by his family. He was 81.
Bobby Ray Coil was born on January 19, 1936 in Oklahoma City to Walter and Chloe (Davenport) Coil. When Bobby was six years old, he began his first school year. He decided he didn't like school too much and would often leave at recess. After his mother promised him a puppy Bobby stopped leaving school early.
A few years later, his family moved to Pryor, OK. They attended church often where his father was a Deacon and his mother was the Women's Missionary Director. Bobby's Sunday School class was a rowdy one full of 10 year old boys. After going through several teachers because of their behavior, one teacher proclaimed, "I've come to stay and teach," and that he did. Later, Bobby made a decision to accept Christ during that time which would end up shaping the rest of his life.
During high school, Bobby would often skip school. The problem was that school was indoors but he was more of an outdoors kind of person. He would rather fish and hunt than sit behind a desk all day. When he was only 16, he wanted to drop out of school and join the Army. After his 17th birthday despite the war going on in Korea and her own fears, his mother reluctantly gave in and signed the papers allowing him to enlist. He did promise that he would get his GED which was a promise he kept by completing it during his time in the Army. After being stationed at Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri, several times he left on the weekend to go home which was against the rules. One day, his Commanding Officer pulled him in for a talk. "Bobby" he said, "your life is like a merry-go-round, you can go the wrong direction and make it hard on yourself or you can start going the right direction and achieve great things."
These words forever changed Bobby. He was soon shipped to Korea and was present during the signing of the peace treaty that ended the war. He would go on to excel in the military achieving the rank of Staff Sergeant at the young age of 20. He was honorably discharged in 1956 and moved back to Pryor, OK.
Soon after returning, Bob started a courtship with Lydia Hawkins and they were married six months later. They moved to Okmulgee where he enrolled in school for Heating, Air, and Refrigeration. He went on to work at Sears and Montgomery Ward. Bob and Lydia had 2 girls during this time, Pamela and Connie, and moved to New Mexico in 1965. They worked at the Baptist Children's Home taking care of 12 young boys. Bob did everything from driving the bus, performing maintenance, ranching, and along with any other job that needed to be done. He taught the boys about honesty, responsibility, and the importance of having a strong character. Back at home, Bob and Lydia's parents needed them so with a heavy heart, they moved back to Oklahoma. He once said, "Leaving those boys was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make."
Bob worked for Murray Heat and Air Conditioning when they returned until establishing his own business in 1979 called "Coil's Heat and Air." He would run this business over the span of three decades before finally retiring in 2014. He and Lydia established their permanent residence in Claremore, OK. They also had two more girls during this period named Misty and Melody.
Bob Coil was a lot of things to a lot of people. To his customers, he was particularly known for his honesty, hard work, and compassion. He once saw a man walking in the cold and stopped to give him his new coat he had just bought.
He simply had a heart for those in need. He valued virtue over everything else. He loved to fish especially with his close friends and valued their companionship. He showed his love with actions throughout his life. He was a rock for those around him, especially his family. His family referred to him as simply "Daddy" or "Papa."
His life was a life of sacrifice for those he loved. He worked so hard to provide but he was also known for his quick wit and humor. He instinctively knew how to brighten the room with his story telling and jokes. He had an infectious smile that will sorely be missed. His wisdom was beyond the common man. When you needed advice, he was the one you trusted. He had a special knack for simplifying life's complexity.
He was also a sentimental man. Every spring, he would bring the first rose from the front yard to his wife, Lydia. They shared over sixty years together.
They went through some great times and some rough times but throughout it all, his perseverance remained steadfast and his love remained strong. There is simply not a word in the dictionary that could come close to encompassing everything he was to so many. He was an adored husband and father, an admired grandpa and great grandpa, and a trustworthy friend and honest businessman. He meant what he said and said what he meant. He was not impressed with fame nor money. He was a family man through and through. It's hard to imagine the impact one man could have in so many lives around him, but then again, he wasn't your ordinary man either. Above all, he loved the Lord. And up until the day he died, he sang "We'll work till Jesus comes."
This husband, daddy, papa, and friend will be missed by all whose life he touched. Bob is survived by his wife, of over sixty years, Lydia, daughters, Pamela Rae Robertson and husband Richard, Connie Evans and Phil Evans, Misty Clemmens and husband Dave, and Melody Coil, grandchildren, Richard Robertson and wife Christina, Bobby Robertson and wife Wendy, Katie Rae Lee and husband Josh, Zackary Ellard and wife Heather, Phillip John Robert Evans, Ashton Clemmens, great grandchildren, Ricky, Jace, Lily, Daisy, Gunner, Hadley, Holton, Teah, Jackson, Nevaeh, Elijah, sister-in-laws, Reba Coil, and Sherry Dailey and husband Larry. Bob was preceded in death by his parents, brother, Calvin Coil, sisters, Glenna Miller and Bettye Koen, and brother-in-law, Walter Hawkins Jr.
Please view and sign Bob's online tribute at www.delozierfuneralservice.com
Published on June 1, 2017